Ending Premature Ejaculation

What exactly is premature ejaculation?

Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.

What are the causes of premature ejaculation?

It seems logical that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his mate and rapidly reach ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy tribesman and predatory sabretoothed tigers.The slowpoke got clubbed or eaten. Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long enough to sire descendants. Thus, if speed of ejaculation were hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.

Obviously, the above theory cannot be proven; however, it does contain an element of truth. It is probably “natural” for healthy males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic function that we know of.

Lasting is a learned behavior, like learning to dance. It can prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to experience orgasm – or have been socially conditioned to enjoy orgasm – when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation by the penis.

Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggravated psychological factors such as guilt, fear, and performance anxiety.

The first thing a male must hold in mind is that good sex is unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be. The compacting of blood in the sex organs
builds slowly, inflating the tissues and sensitizing the millions of nerve endings in and around the genitals.

Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.

Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis, contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra. To most males this feels like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it’s too late to stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That’s exactly what you want to learn to do.

The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he comes. This cheats him of a lot of fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats the unfortunate female he prematurely has an orgasm into.