The Thinking Man’s Guide to Success With Women
Table of Contents
Introduction............................................................................8
The three themes of this book..........................................................10
How to use this book...................................................................10
Final thoughts before you begin........................................................11
Chapter 1. Attraction and Fulfillment: An Introduction.................................13
Vocal attractiveness...................................................................14
Exercise 1. Vocal resonance............................................................15
Exercise 2. Pausing; Tempo.............................................................15
Principles of attractive body language.................................................15
Exercise 3. The body language of the attractive male ..................................16
The map vs. the territory: On being fulfillment-centered ..............................17
Exercise 4. Your highest vision of yourself............................................18
Chapter 2. What You Want and How to Get it ............................................19
Exercise 5. Empower yourself by figuring out your core values .........................20
What you have to offer.................................................................21
Exercise 6. Walking the walk ..........................................................21
Exercise 7. Take stock of your relationship assets.....................................21
Chapter 3. The Be-Do-Have Paradigm of Success .........................................23
Chapter 4. Be, Part I: Beliefs ........................................................27
Exercise 8. Experience how beliefs set the limits of your behavior.....................27
The Content of Beliefs I: The World ...................................................28
The Content of Beliefs II: The Self....................................................29
Exercise 9. The Ultimate Freedom Exercise .............................................30
The process of belief .................................................................32
Chapter 5. Be, Part II: Attitudes .....................................................34
The six rules of attitude..............................................................34
A note on games and manipulation.......................................................36
On being a man.........................................................................37
Your own rite of passage...............................................................38
Chapter 6. Do, Part I: Find ...........................................................40
Exercise 10. The Quarters Exercise. ...................................................41
Exercise 11. The Ideal Woman. .........................................................41
The three-step process for finding desirable women ....................................42
11 types of desirable women and where they can be found…...............................43
The three C’s of optimal venues........................................................44
The nine top-secret goldmines for meeting quality women ...............................44
Chapter 7. Do, Part II: Meet ..........................................................47
The importance of intention ...........................................................47
Exercise 12. Powerful Positive Intent (PPI) ...........................................48
Exercise 13. Craft your own PPI to act with greater authority and integrity ...........49
Exercise 14. The Cookies Experiment ...................................................49
The initial contact ...................................................................49
The two-hit technique on the macroscale ...............................................51
Handling rejection ....................................................................51
Becoming Rejection-Proof I: Re-writing your rule ......................................51
Exercise 15. Write your personal rule to make rejection an impossibility ..............52
Becoming Rejection-Proof II: Re-framing ...............................................52
Becoming Rejection-Proof III: Desensitization training ................................53
Chapter 8. Do, Part III: Attract, or How to Communicate With Women ....................54
Exercise 16. Use compelling role models to make yourself compelling ...................55
Frame-setting: The Undercurrent of Attraction .........................................55
Attraction-reducing behavior: five to avoid............................................58
Exercise 17. Use the rubber band technique to modify behaviors rapidly.................58
How to be compelling, continued: The five methods......................................61
The fail-safe technique for being compelling ..........................................64
The foolproof internal guide for your actions..........................................65
The physiology of attraction...........................................................65
Rapport................................................................................66
How to create passion..................................................................68
Success and integrity .................................................................68
Getting contact information from women: theory and practice ...........................69
When to get the contact information ...................................................69
How to get the contact information ....................................................70
Striking while the iron is hot: when to call or write .................................71
Redundancy and quality control ........................................................72
Flake insurance........................................................................73
Technique vs. non-action: The principle of wu wu-wei ..................................73
Chapter 9. Do, Part IV: Romance: Advanced Techniques for Attraction ...................75
What Women Want........................................................................75
The Secret Formula for Romance.........................................................76
The four phases of romance: the practical viewpoint ...................................77
How to know which phase you are in ....................................................77
Establishing trust and safety .........................................................77
The phases: A scientific viewpoint ....................................................79
Green lights, or signs for advancing to the next phase.................................80
Transitioning through the phases: The Date Blueprint ..................................81
Advancing the phases: The three secret romantic accelerators ..........................82
Exercise 18. Anchoring: How to evoke an emotion in yourself and others on demand ......83
Kissing girls: theory and practice ....................................................85
The key factor determining whether or not you're going to have sex ....................87
Chapter 10. Have: Perpetuating Relationships Through Time .............................91
Representing yourself with integrity ..................................................91
The art of early disclosure ...........................................................93
The importance of sex in relationships ................................................93
Making relationships last .............................................................94
Tightening the helmet .................................................................96
How not to be taken for granted .......................................................96
Taking your own counsel, again ........................................................99
Introduction to The Tao
Nature understands no jesting; she is always true, always serious, always severe; she is
always right, and the errors and faults are always those of man. The man incapable of
appreciating her, she despises and only to the apt, the pure, and the true, does she resign
herself and reveal her secrets.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832)
